How to reframe the thoughts holding you back so you can hit your next income goal
Comparisonitis can run DEEP sometimes.
One post from a friend hitting those big number goals that seem so far away for you...
An infinite scroll of people doing exactly what it is that you’ve been thinking about doing for years...
Seeing someone reach a massive amount of success really quickly, only to wonder what it is that they know and you don’t...
Reading the wrong words at the wrong time and causing you to question if you really have what it takes to make this business of yours work...
I hear it ALL. THE. TIME. on my coaching calls.
And while I know that it’s so much easier to get angry or frustrated at the person posting than to do the INNER work, the inner work is where it’s at, lady.
Meaning it’s in shifting YOUR thoughts about what so and so is posting that is going to bring you infinitely closer to the dream that is on your heart.
And consequently, help you to take more of the right actions that are in support of the results you want with way more ease.
So instead of thinking…
“I’m not sure this is ever going to work” → “Look at all the evidence I already have that this is already working!”
“What does she know that I don’t?” → “I trust myself to find the tools, resources, and support to reach my goals.”
“I wish I had her schedule” → “How can I make my schedule work for me?”
“Why do people keep bragging about their income on the internet?” → “I love seeing all this proof of what’s possible for me!”
“I could never be that consistent.” → “Consistency looks different for everyone.”
“Why isn’t this happening for me faster?” → “I trust that I’m exactly where I’m meant to be.”
Because if you get real honest with yourself, it’s THOSE exact thoughts that are holding you back from creating a thriving life and biz, more so than any post from a stranger on the internet.
That’s why this week, I’m diving into exactly what you need to know to reframe the thoughts that are standing in your way so you can hit more of your goals with way more ease.
I’m dishing out my best secrets on how to handle the little voice that says “you can’t” so you CAN hit more of your goals.
Get to the root of your stories or limiting beliefs
When I was in second grade (yes, we’re going there!) I asked the teacher if I could read a book to the class.
It was a book that I particularly enjoyed at the time, and I thought that everyone else would like it too. What can I say, it rhymed?
Now, this wasn’t a thing that was “done” as a weekly thing or had any kind of structure around it.
It was just something that I decided I wanted to do and when the teacher agreed, I got up in front of the class and read the book aloud.
I was so excited. I can still feel it.
Now not only was the class not exactly receptive to this. I was mocked for DAYS after.
WHY did you read it to us?
Are you trying to SHOW off?
THAT was a stupid book.
Kids can be mean, there’s no denying that. But I had NO CLUE how deep this seemingly silly story ran.
How at that early point in my childhood, I formed the idea that “People don’t want to hear from me.”
THAT was the story I told myself for way too long.
And do you know what can be really damaging to running a profitable coaching business, or hell, any business for that matter?
The idea that people don’t want to hear from me.
And consequently, it showed up in every aspect of my biz.
It made it that much harder to hop on coffee chats, let alone sales calls. It made it that much harder to believe that I had something to offer that people would want to hear about. It made it that much harder to show up consistently in my marketing and share value with my audience.
Now, I’m not looking for sympathy for that experience and honestly, I hadn’t even thought about this for ages.
But my point is, the first step to reframing those thoughts that are holding you back from taking massive action in your biz, is to actually RECOGNIZE those thoughts.
When I was able to shift those thoughts, the actions themselves became that much easier.
I stopped reading and re-reading every piece of content for typos and started taking imperfect action (WAY more frequently!).
I stopped constantly worrying about what people would think and anchored into what I believed to be true. I stopped telling myself that people didn’t want to hear from me and started believing I had a mission and a message to share.
And you know what, my business TOOK OFF when I did that and I know the same can be true for you:
Struggling with your confidence on sales calls? What is the thought holding you back?
Unable to write content consistently? What is the thought holding you back?
Feel like you can’t raise your rates? What is the thought holding you back?
I’m not saying this work is easy (I mean it hardly ever is and that’s why I love supporting my Future You clients so much in this thought work!) but it IS the underlying work that will yield way more results in your biz.
Stop hiding behind comfortable actions
Are you really focusing on the RIGHT actions to move your business forward?
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had this conversation on my Future You coaching calls because the truth is, I think we’ve all been in this situation at one point or another.
Our brains aren’t always logical. I mean hell, they hardly ever are because they’ll do anything to keep us safe and comfortable.
“I just have to finish my website first, THEN I’ll be ready to start promoting”
“I just have to try this other social media platform, THEN the clients will come pouring in.”
“ I just need a different offer, THEN people will actually want to work with me.”
YES and NO.
I am all for showing up and doing the work, but the thing is so many times you’re burying your head in actions that feel safe and comfortable rather than the ones that will actually move your business forward THE most.
You know... the ones you know you need to be doing that keep getting pushed off ‘til tomorrow… for months now.
The ones that make your brain scream, “But that’s terrifying. I could never.”
You most definitely can IF you have the right support.
If you’re ready to stop hiding behind actions that are making you feel busier than ever but aren’t producing results, then it’s time to step into the support you need to grow your business faster and with more ease than ever before.
I know that Future You coaching is THE THING that is going to get you more of the results you want because I’m real transparent about when you’re hiding behind actions that aren’t doing a damn thing to move the needle and support you in the mindset work that WILL get you incredible results.
But is that true?
“But there are so many other people doing this far better than I ever could.”
Please. Can we all just agree that this isn’t true???
I’m about to get real deep, but I have a fundamental belief that the Universe acts with intention.
And I just cannot get behind the idea that the dream that’s on your heart would be there if it wasn’t meant for you.
Which means YOU have a unique story to tell.
YOU have a unique perspective to share.
YOU have a way of doing things that is going to create a massive amount of impact and income.
IF you finally shift your thinking and get out of your own way long enough to DO IT.
So the next time you feel limited by that thought that it just isn’t possible for you or any other limiting belief BS you woke up with today, I want you to ask yourself Byron Katies 4 questions (these are about to blow your damn mind!):
Is it true?
Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
How do you react when you believe that thought?
Who would you be without the thought?
Because doing this mindset work on the regular is going to change absolutely everything for you and allow you to take far more of the RIGHT actions that actually produce results and help you THRIVE in life and biz.
Simmer down now, Jessica (aka give your inner critic a name!)
You’d never talk to a friend the way that your inner critic does.
“You’re never going to be able to make this business work.”
“If you invest in support, there’s no way you’ll show up for it.”
“It’s possible for everyone BUT you.”
Jeez, no way would I want to hang out with that lady let alone walk around with her on the regular.
And at the very least, I think we can all agree that we would call a girl out on those comments as being downright unproductive, right!?
So it’s time to call yourself out here.
And one of the single best ways I’ve found to do this is to give your inner critic a name and tell her what’s up.
“Sweetie, I appreciate your concern but there’s no way that’s true for me.”
“Hun, I can absolutely land that next client.”
“Karen, that comment isn’t helpful in moving my business forward.”
“Brain, I love that you like to keep me safe but there’s nothing dangerous about this situation.”
Thinking about your inner critic in this way helps you to separate those nasty thought gremlins from what you’re actively choosing to believe to be true so you can move forward faster and take more of the right actions than if you were still stewing in self-doubt.
The bottom line:
Comparison is just one way that the little voice in your head can hold you back from taking massive action in your business to see more of the results that you want.
But what I’ve found to be true for both myself and my Future You clients is that shifting those underlying thoughts can be far more productive and produce far more of the results you want in your life and business.
So the next time you hear your inner critic acting up, it’s time to reframe those thoughts on the spot so you can THRIVE.
I truly believe that the strategy is the “easy” part and doing THIS underlying thought work is the only work that really matters because it will change absolutely EVERYTHING for you in life and biz.
Tell me in the comments below:
What’s one thought you’ve reframed that has helped you move forward faster in your life or business!?
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